Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can’t change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
February came and went, I don’t really understand what happened to it?! There have been so many changes in work and everything seems to be super urgent so sometimes I don’t even know which way I should run. It’s the same old complaint really! The good news is, I’m beginning to see some light at the end of the tunnel as I have been able to hand over some of my previous responsibilities as I have moved on to a new role. For a long time now, I have found it really difficult to get motivated in work, the tasks just seem to pile up, one after another and every day at the end of the day I feel like I haven’t managed to finish anything. I’ve always seen myself as a fairly relaxed person. Relaxed in the way that I don’t stress too much over things I can’t change and never before have I complained about being busy at work. If you’re busy, you’re busy, it doesn’t get any better by stressing over it and there is only so much you can do in one day. In the past couple of months, I think I’ve lost my mojo and it feels like all I’m doing is complaining about how busy it is. And that’s something I’ve always hated, people who seem to be busy complaining how busy they are – go and do something about it and stop complaining! Time to listen to my own advice I think…
|It’s been a tough week for all of us, Mr. Falling-Asleep-Eating-A-Biscuit!|
So all of that has resulted in a lot of future plans and just general thoughts of life, what is important for me now? How about in a year, or in five years’ time? What if I could concentrate on my family so that I live for the family, not for work? Currently, I see the kids about 2 hours a day during the week. I’m sure these are things most of the parents think about on and off as the years go by! Personally, I’m beginning to think that a part-time job would be an ideal solution. That way the kids could go an socialise with other kids for a couple of hours a day while I get to do my own adults’ stuff (i.e. work!) and then the rest of the day I could spend with the kids. See the thing is, childcare here in Ireland is really expensive; a lot of the time it’s actually financially more beneficial for the family if the parent who earns less, stays at home with the kids. I’ve been back working for a year now with the two kids in daycare and when the balance in the account shows zero, most of the time a week or two before the next pay cheque, you begin to wonder if all of this makes any sense… But then you need to think about the future as well. The next say five years would go just fine at home with the kids, because the first couple of years in school are only half days. But what do you do once the school days get longer and they start spending time with their friends? It can be quite difficult to get back to work after being a stay at home mum for 5+ years. And then you remember the fact that the kids are small only such a short time!
|Saturday morning… eh, relaxation?!|
I suppose the next step is to find a solution that ticks all the boxes 🙂 I’ve been playing with all sorts of ideas for a long time now, and I am famous for having plans. The only thing is, when you come up with a plan, the hardest part is to make the final decision. I’ve always believed I’m quite good and quick at making decisions. I suppose as you get older and get kids, you become more cautious and mull over a decision, think about all possible (and not so possible) scenarios before you even think about doing something. I do believe though, that once you have the right plan in your head, you know it and the decision making is easier..
|When the little sister is sleeping you can play in peace…|
|Rainy day entertainment, first time in the cinema!|
Luckily, the kids keep your mind refreshed, well at least if you’ve managed to sleep through the night 😉 I would love to hear your experiences and what solutions other families have come up with. I’m hardly alone with these thoughts?!